Is Someone Thinking of You When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Them? | A Guy’s Perspective

I remember a few years back when I was with my Ex, and she suddenly broke up with me for someone else. I mean, I loved and was proud of her, and suddenly, she broke up because she fell in love with her workmate. Fast forward three years, and they are now married with a daughter. I am telling you this story because many people say that if you keep thinking of someone, it means that they are thinking of you. The truth is after the breakup, I always thought of her. Since I know that she fell in love with another guy, I know that that’s not the case.

It is not true that when you can’t stop thinking about someone, they are thinking about you. While there are times where they might think of you, that will not happen a hundred percent of the time. Thinking of someone is normal if you are really into the person but take note that they aren’t obliged to do the same.

I was hoping you could think of me as your friend who will tell you things you don’t want to hear, but it’s for your own good. I know that many of us have a friend like this, and we appreciate them for their honesty. In this blog post, if there’s just one thing you will be sure of, what I will say is that I will be frank with you.

Is It True That if I Can’t Stop Thinking of Someone, He or She Is Thinking of Me?

From a guy’s perspective, I will be 100% honest with you.

While you always hear your friends supporting that idea since it looks cheesy, I can say that it’s untrue.

However, I am also sure that there are times where it can happen.

And the perfect example is when you love each other at the same level.

What I mean by that is he loves you as much as you love him.

Other than that, I don’t believe this to be the case for anyone.

As someone who believes in Science and scientific journals, I don’t accept reasons about the fourth dimension or any magic people are talking about.

You will be sure that I will be talking a hundred percent from a logical perspective.

So, when you love someone, you are thinking of that person. It’s normal for us humans to be that way.

However, take this situation as an example. You might love the person too much, but they aren’t obligated to love you back.

For example, when someone is cheating, it is a hundred percent sure that they don’t love you.

To that, I say, wake up. If someone loves you, they wouldn’t even think of cheating, and I am speaking from a guy’s perspective.

So, you might be thinking of that person most of the time, but are you sure that they are also thinking of you while they’re out with someone else?

I know how hard it is to accept that fact. That’s why I said in the introduction that you should think of me as your friend who will be honest with you because I care for you.

Sometimes, the truth is hard to accept, but it will help us move on with life.

I repeat, there is nothing wrong with thinking of someone. It is normal, and if the other person truly loves you, they would also think about you.

No matter you’re a guy or a gal, it’s normal.

But to think that they are always thinking of you when you think about them is false.

Furthermore, when you think of someone else, even if they love you so much, they might be doing something else.

For example, if you think about them and they’re busy talking to their boss, then there is a high chance that what they’re thinking is their work and not you.

Just because there are instances where you thought of each other simultaneously doesn’t mean that it always happens.

The Logical Reasoning Why It Is Not True That if You Can’t Stop Thinking of Someone, He or She Is Thinking of You

I said earlier that I am not someone who believes in things that have no proof.

Thus, I often try to find some scientific papers on the topic since I want to be informed on the subject.

It might be true that they’re also thinking about you, but it is close to impossible that it always happens.

Just because there are 1 or 3 instances that it happened doesn’t mean that it happens all the time.

For instance, you might think of them 80% of the time while the other person is thinking of you just 20% of the time.

Will there be instances where you will be thinking of each other? Absolutely! That’s why there are lots of stories about the topic.

But what about the 60% of the time where you’re thinking of them and the other 20% where you’re not thinking of each other?

That’s my point. It is usual for you to think of each other, but that will not happen 100% of the time.

Here is a simple illustration to see my point.

Time Thinking of Someone Infographic
Consider this graph. If you’re thinking of them for a lot of time, then the other think of you for a shorter time, then there will be a time where you will think of each other. However, it doesn’t always happen since there will be times where they’re not thinking of you while you’re thinking of them.

And how often this happens is correlated with how much you love each other.

So whether you’re starting a relationship or you’re having a heartbreak, the same is true.

I also know the feeling of falling in love, I’ve experienced it, and it can be very magical to think that you are connected with something magical.

If you’re in that situation, then very good for you! I hope you are having the best time of your life.

But remember that life isn’t as magical as you think.

While I believe in having a happy life and being grateful for the things I have, I also need to be realistic.

I know that life is not as magical as others tend to think. However, I am not here to break that bubble.

I am here to shed some light on the topic. To give some hard truth to swallow to help you stay logical.

I also know how hard it is to stay logical when you are emotional. I completely understand what you’re into.

Remember that what you’re feeling is normal. There is nothing wrong with thinking that the universe is doing wonders for your relationship. It is a good feeling, and I believe that you should enjoy that moment.

But don’t think that when you can’t stop thinking of someone else, they are also thinking of you. It doesn’t happen all the time.

What’s next? How about finding out what people feel when they’re happy. I know it seems weird, but it is also good to understand why you’re happy, especially when you’re in love. Let’s talk about things logically and scientifically. Here is the link: What do people feel when they’re happy?

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Recommended Books

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  1. For Beginners7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey – Personal development has a lot of concepts and ideas to learn. Thus it can be really hard for beginners to know where to start. Thus, I recommend this book since all the basic concepts of personal development are here(except finance, check what I recommended for that)
  2. ProductivityThe One Thing by Gary Keller – This book teaches us the power of focusing on one thing which is the ultimate source of productivity. The concepts taught are what I am using to constantly publish YouTube videos while maintaining this website.
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My Audiobook Recommendation will always be the same as my book recommendations, but I personally like The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins. I like how she is so casual while reading her book.

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