Too Quiet: Is it really bad?

Personally, I’m a quiet person. I am an introvert. I prefer quiet places and there are a lot of times where I rather stay quiet and say nothing. The problem is that some people would often ask me why am I being so quiet. I know that they are somewhat concerned but they don’t really understand how introverts feel. Thus, I really want to know if being quiet is really bad. As an introvert who’s quiet, I did my research to see both sides. I saw the negative and positive sides of being quiet.

It is not bad to be a quiet person. Most likely, the person who is quiet is just someone who is a great listener. People think that a quiet person is a bad communicator, but that is not true since listening is as important as speaking. However, being too quiet and not speaking up may be bad depending on the situation.

This article would discuss in further detail the statement above. We are going to answer if it is really bad being too quiet and what happens when we’re too quiet. We are going to see both the good and the bad when it comes to being silent. Since in life, there are always advantage and disadvantage to everything. My research would be based on the perspective of an introvert.

Is it bad being too quiet?

Generally speaking, there is nothing wrong with being quiet. Some people are quiet because it is a sign that you value the words coming out of your mouth. However, it doesn’t mean that all people who are quiet are actually right as being too quiet can also be a sign of a person lacking confidence.

When people usually tell introverts like me if there is something wrong since I am not talking, I usually ask myself if there is really something good with talking a lot.

The reason is simple. I grew up with noisy parents, and every day, I would hear them talking a lot about work and life in general.

However, I never found anything good with them talking a lot. Most likely, they would start arguing because of one simple statement.

So that’s where my question started. It is really good to always speak up?

That’s where I started my search for the truth. But by experience, because of my observation on how people always talking would often result in arguments, I just thought that less talk produces fewer mistakes.

I also experienced the value of words. I find that most people I respect often don’t talk a lot. They talk but they will only talk when necessary.

This shows power. In Robert Greene’s book “The 48 laws of power“, one of the laws is to speak less than necessary. For me, I agree. Most people I admire are those who speak less.

When they speak, people would be all ears since they know that everything that comes from their mouths is just valuable. That’s a basic rule of life. The rarer it is, the more valuable.

That’s the same with people who speak less.

I am a person who values peace. I prefer speaking less, thus fewer mistakes. I find that my life is much quieter this way and I love how I can just have my coffee in the morning, enjoying the tweets of the birds, or just analyzing or thinking about various things in life.

I also know that when I do this, people start respecting or caring about my voice more. They know that what I’m always going to say is necessary.

That’s a lot better than someone who always talks and people thinking that everything that comes from their mouth is jokes. Most people who always talk would also make people think their voice is less valuable.

I would prefer to be someone who talks a little but people value me, rather than people who won’t believe things I say because I talk a lot.

Choosing the words you’re saying isn’t a bad thing. It’s a good thing and it brings more respect from people.

Susan Cain’s book “Quiet” is a good book that talks about the advantage of introverts. As an introvert, I believe what she said and I made a video summary of her book. If you’re interested, here is the video

If you’re interested in more self-improvement videos and book summaries, feel free to check my channel. Here it is: YouTube Channel

However, that is not the end. Being quiet is not all rainbows. In fact, there are things to take note of.

The next section would talk about the disadvantages of being too quiet. I told you that we would explore both sides of the coin.

What happens when you are too quiet?

When you are too quiet, you might miss a lot of life opportunities. Furthermore, it might show a lack of confidence or your belief in your worth. The problem is that there are times where we need to speak up and being too quiet can be detrimental to our well-being,

The problem with being too quiet is that we tend to miss a lot of opportunities in life.

This is especially true when you’re always quiet. The reason is that there are just times in our life where we need to speak up.

We need to speak up if we think we deserve better such as job opportunities, business opportunities, relationships, and so much more.

Not being able to talk in key moments like this can cause serious problems in our life. Furthermore, we also need to check on ourselves if there is a deep reason why we’re being too quiet.

Chances are, you’re being too quiet because of trauma or rejection. During those cases, it is not okay to be quiet. You need to first fix yourself and let go of the past.

Not speaking up for yourself can cause problems in your career. For example, not saying “No” when your schedule is already full.

What can happen is that the quality of your work can diminish resulting in the failure in your career.

Earlier, I said that people who are quiet are just good listeners. They know that speaking more would make their words less valuable.

But they would still talk when necessary.

Being able to listen properly is key to communication. That’s why it is also good to remain silent.

But they would still speak for themselves when the need arises.

If you’re having trouble speaking up, don’t worry since I have an article that can help you. It is an article that can help you start speaking up for yourself. That guide is helpful especially for introverts such as myself. Here is the link: How do you Stop Being so Quiet

Sometimes, it is our lack of confidence that causes us to speak less. This is not good and I won’t sugarcoat things for you.

And no amount of confidence pose can help you with that. If you think that’s the case for you, you need to find the root cause of the problem. That’s the only way to truly get out of your lack of confidence.

To find the root cause, do self-reflection. That helped me a lot in getting to the root cause of my problems.

If you’re interested, I have an article teaching how to do self-reflection. If you’re interested, here’s the link: How to develop self-reflection practice

But being quiet doesn’t mean that you’re wrong. When you’re different from others, it is just normal for people to think that way.

But as an introvert that did my research, I know that being too quiet doesn’t mean that it’s bad. Being quiet can still be a good thing.

If you’re quite different, then so be it.

Ultimately, being too quiet can be good or bad. It all depends on who you are, where you’re currently at, and when you should be speaking. If you know the right time to speak up, then it is by no means a bad thing. Whether it would be good or bad depends on the person.